According to the Daily Mail Rachel Dilley, 48, a mother of three, was diagnosed with HIV after a summer romance with a man she'd met on a dating site. She said she never dreamed she was at risk of HIV because she never realized that white people had ever had it and the risks had genuinely never crossed her mind.
She was interviewed show host and here's her entire story:
It was in
2004, just short of her 40th birthday, when she embarked on online dating,
having split from her partner of 20 years and the father of her children the
year before.
She
began dating a man called “Simon” and said the pair seemed to click and get on
well.
Over
the course of the summer, their relationship progressed physically.
But
because of her age, she says she knew she wouldn't get pregnant - so didn't
think about protection.
But
she also hadn't given a second thought to HIV. 'I didn't know anything about it
- I didn't know it was even possible to catch it,' she explained.
When
quizzed about how sex education campaigns and messages had passed her by, she
admitted they simply had.
Within
a few months, the relationship between Ms Dilley and Simon was over - and
shortly afterwards she began to feel unwell.
'I
had swollen glands, a sore throat, a temperature and couldn't eat properly,'
she recalled.
'It
was like a really severe bout of the flu.'
After
tests were inconclusive, it was suggested - to her surprise - she should take
an HIV test.
'I
thought "why?",' she explained.
'I
just didn't know anything about it - I just thought you got it in Africa. I
didn't know a white person had ever got it.'
Her
comments were described by Philip (the interviewer) as 'extremely naive'.
She
went on to explain that a week after taking the test, she received the
devastating news that she was, indeed, HIV positive.
'I
felt like I was walking into a black hole - and my first words were "am I
going to die"?
'It
sounds stupid now - as now I know that HIV is not a death sentence.
'My
children, who were teenagers at the time, took the news well - as did my mother
when she was alive.'
But
she added not everyone has been fine about her diagnosis. 'A friend's daughter
didn't want me near her baby. It did upset me at the time, but it just shows
that, like me, she wasn't educated on it either.'
Today,
Ms Dilley takes two drugs in the morning and one in the evening and tries to
keep her immune system strong.
She
also admitted she 'doesn't have much to do with men' - and said people of all
ages need to be more aware of the risks of HIV.
'I
will not be defined by it [my illness] - people love me for who I am,' she
added.
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