She has also been shooting a video for the single and it's mainly based on the abuse she endured in the marriage and this was what she had to say about it;
The video “Flatline"
does touch on domestic violence and some abuse I encountered in my marriage.
It’s not exact to what I went through, because, honestly, what I went through
was a little bit worse in some instances.
Peep the rest of the interview below....................
On what really happened in the marriage:
Abuse.
Physical abuse. Yeah. There were several different occasions that this
happened. When you’re in an abusive situation, it kind of just builds, and it
starts to get worse and worse. And people ask me, ‘why didn’t you tell anybody
or call the police?’ or what have you. I just thought that I could make it
better. I honestly thought after each situation that I would change this or I
would change that, and therefore the outcome wouldn’t be the same. It doesn’t
work like that.
I’m
still realizing now that a lot of what happened, it wasn’t my fault.
Porsha
also revealed that Kordell admitted to the abuse during the couple’s divorce
deposition:
When
we were going through the divorce process, we had to sit in deposition hearing,
and he didn’t deny it. A lot of women who are in situations like I was in, I
wanted to make it better. I was praying every day. I was cooking. I was
smiling. The outside appearance was as if nothing was happening. Even though you’re being abused,
you still love that person, you’re just trying to love them through it. And
you’re trying to pray them through it and you’re not realizing that you can’t
change a person, they have to changethemselves.
I
never went to the hospital. I never reported anything. There were [visible
injuries], but I’ll tell you the ones that have stuck with me the most is the
mental abuse. I had so much pride in being a wife and being a mother and what
that meant to me was big. So for me to be told I was lazy, and that I was stupid and that I wasn’t good
enough and that nothing I could do was right, that was really, really hard for
me…When someone is constantly ridiculing you, I’m always trying to live up to
what that person thinks of me, it’s hard.
On whether Kordell Stewart is gay:
Well
I call a lot of people queen. We take on the lingo of the queens and we say
that now. It wasn’t me necessarily calling him gay. I haven’t spoken out on
that and I won’t and to me that’s his life. If he says he isn’t, that is what
he wants you all to believe. I’m concerned about Porsha and being better and
growing from what I went through.
On how they connected as husband and wife:
We
were a married couple so of course we had sex, if that’s what you are asking,
but it did change. But when you are in a relationship and someone is being
controlling and they are using that as power; they will use money, they will
use sex, they will use anything to make you feel as though you aren’t worthy of
better. And for me in the marriage, I thought I had no self-worth. It wasn’t
until I got out of the marriage that I realized that I am very valuable, I
bring a lot to the table, I’m smart, beautiful and I am a great wife and I’ll
never accept that again. EVER.
There are always three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth. Kordell has since come forward and denied all these allegations. All we can do is wish them both well in their future endeavours.
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